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Friends: They're the best! And sometimes they're...not. Nine times out of ten, we love our besties—but if we're being honest, it's not always fun and laughs when your friends have different priorities.

Peer pressure is a very real thing, and it can come from your classmates, teammates and, yes, even your very best friends. If you ever find yourself in a situation where others are making you feel obligated to act in ways that go against your own moral code, know that you absolutely do not have to go along with it. 

We know that going against the grain can be challenging, but trust us when we say that it is *so* doable (and worth it!) to stay true to yourself. Try out these tips the next time you find yourself in a difficult sitch.

Be honest about your boundaries

Set boundaries for yourself—then make them super clear to your peers. Don't be afraid to say no to something that doesn't feel right to you. Stay true to your beliefs even if it means disagreeing with the group. If they're truly your friends, they'll understand. Finding a group of friends who support you is key.

Call for backup

If your group still isn't respecting your opinions, try having a private chat with the friend you're closest to. Explain to them why you're uncomfortable and that you could use some help getting your point across to the others.

When you're back in your group, your bestie can back you up if you need to step away from an uncomfortable situation. They can choose to do something else with you or help convince the group to act differently. Either way, it never hurts to have a second person by your side.

Make a plan (and stick to it)

Before hanging out with your friends, ask them what the plan is: when, where, what you'll do, etc. If they plan on doing anything that just doesn't sit right with you, opt out. Again, there's absolutely nothing wrong with saying "no."

In addition, make a backup plan just in case Plan A changes. Let your mom know ahead of time that she may need to make a phone call to you in case any surprises pop up. If your friends feel like going to that upperclassman's party instead of studying for finals? Luckily for you, your mom ~just so happens~ to need you home. All it takes is a quick text and you're out of your sticky sitch.

Have alternative options on hand

If you're ever worried about your friends pressuring you into doing something you don't want to, keep a few activities in your back pocket and suggest those instead. Are your friends trying to convince you to sneak out one night? Invite them over to your house for a movie marathon instead. It's something everyone can be comfortable with, and still *tons* of fun. Crisis averted. 

For more tips on tough stuff, check out these GL posts:
💞 How to stop being a people pleaser
💞 How to deal with jealousy
💞 So you embarrassed yourself...here's how to cope

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by Melanie Dowling | 6/21/2023