Your ex-BFF wants to re-kindle your friendship, but instead of being nice, she keeps causing arguments and exposing your secrets. She wants to be your friend again but you've moved on, and you kinda don't want her back in your life. 

How do you get her to let go and stop all the drama?

My friend Karly and I were in the library with my class. My ex-BFF heard us talking and said we were talking about her so, but we weren't. At recess she got mad and yelled across the play ground, “at least my brother isn’t in the army.”

My brother that is only 10 years older than me left for the army a week before and my ex-BFF  knew I was really touchy on the subject. What really got me was, he is fighting for our country, and she disrespected him like that.  She wants me to be her friend again, but it is not going to happen, especially after she pulled a stunt like that. 

BFF Fix-it: Sounds like your old bestie wants to start things up again. She caused the drama in the library most likely because she was jealous that you were talking to your new friend. Another cry for attention? Exposing your brother’s deployment in front of everyone.

She wants a reason to talk to you...and she's doing super dramatic things to get your attention. Tell her how much she hurt you when she disrespected your brother. You should also let her you’re not ready to become friends again and tell her how hurt you feel. If you want to cut this girlie loose, just keep hanging out with your new crew. Sounds like they're true blue pals, not backstabbers!

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6/29/2009 7:00:00 AM