We all have that friend who is in a more popular crowd than us, and when they jump on the bandwagon and make fun of us it's even worse than the cool group doing it without her.  How ‘bout having a friend that doesn’t ever want to stick up for you no matter what, and tells you to, “Just chill out!” when you’re being made fun of?  Hmm, doesn’t seem like a bestie to me...

So my BFF and I have been friends for a really long time. When we went to middle school, she got in with the popular crowd, but she still hung out with me too. I’m not really popular, but I’m not like a total geek either. Well, she has a friend in the cool group who is always being mean to me. Everything she says is mean. She makes fun of my clothes (which are like the same as my BFFs), and say mean stuff about my hair and everything, when I’m not even any different from the other girls.  My BFF is around when the girl is mean to me, and she never defends me, ever.

When we are alone, she always talks bad about the popular girls, especially the mean one. But, when I asked her to stick up for me around them, she said, “Well, I’m sorry that she is mean, but she is mean to a lot of people. Just chill out!” Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth being friends with her. 

BFF Fix-It: It sounds like you’re doing your part to try to salvage the relationship, but she doesn’t sound like she’s doing hers.  Especially by telling you to just chill.  You might have to show this chick where the door is and ask her to use it next time you’re hangin'.  No one likes to be made fun of, and it’s not a BFF's job to sit back and let it happen either.  You deserve better girl!

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5/11/2009 7:00:00 AM