DEAR CAROL: Tattletale Pal

My friend is a troublemaker. She’ll go to my other friend’s house and my friend will talk about me, and then she will run home and tell me. She must want to be friends with both of us. But she doesn’t want me and my other friend to be friends. I hope you understand.

—Big Problems

Dear Big Problems,

I do. The good news is that by high school, juggling friends is easier. What to do now? Try honesty. Tell each girl, “Look, I really like you and I like the other girl, too, and it’s lucky that we can all get along and be friends, don’t you think?”

Here’s the thing: Friends of all ages do talk about each other, but for the most part, they don’t report all that gossip back to other friends. So remember: When someone confides in you, don’t turn around and tell all.

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4/18/2009 7:00:00 AM