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My mom got breast cancer last year. I've done research and I know that as a teenager who checks frequently for abnormalities, I'm unlikely to get breast cancer right now. But still... I can't help but be scared that I'm next in my family! What should I do to deal with the anxiety?

Hey girl, I’m sorry to hear about what’s happening to your mom. Understand that what happened is neither of your faults and that she can get through this. Breast cancer is very treatable — especially when caught early. And because you’re taking precautions now, you’ll be in good shape no matter what happens decades down the road, too. That said, it’s important you not let worry consume your life: remember, breast cancer is something NO ONE can control. You could get it. You could not get it. But you’re doing the best thing you can do right now: taking precaution. I’ve got some tips to help you keep things in prospective and remember it’s all about keeping a sunny outlook.

When dealing with anxiety, it’s way important you keep a positive attitude. Know you’re going to be OK -- tell yourself that. You’ve done the research and you know the risk for you is low. Technology is advancing as well and better treatment methods are being developed every day.

What that means for you? You’re going to be in a better place even if the worst happens decades later. But right now, it’s important you set the thought aside and not let it consume your life. Too much worrying can be a totes bad thing too for you mentally and distract from what you should be doing: living life to the fullest and helping your fam stay strong.

It’s way hard to see a family member close to you go through this. Know it’s OK to be scared and even a little anxious for yourself. But know too that too much worry is a bad thing and you’re doing the best thing you can: checking as a means of prevention. I suggest talking to your doctor the next time you visit about your worries too as a means to let go: she’ll give you some peace of mind. You’re young and trust me when I say there’s no guarantee you’ll develop breast cancer one day. You can’t control it. Just continue taking care of yourself, your mom and making good health choices.

Know your future right now is looking pretty bright health-wise and enjoy it. It’s all about living life to the fullest. Hang in there!