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My security guard creeps me out
Whenever I go to basketball games, there's this security guy that always stares at me.
He looks really creepy. I think I might like him though.
What should I do?
Hit the brakes on this one. Older guys can be intriguing, but this age gap is too wide to ever be OK. Trust me, you don't wanna get involved.
You should def be seeing a huge “stop” sign when you think about your schools security guard. Don’t forget what this dude's job is—to protect you from harm in school. It's totally cool to befriend him, but don’t forget boundaries. There is a fine line between being friendly and being inappropriate—and in this case, it's illegal since you're a minor and he's um, not.
Just an FYI: You should probably like a guy within a two to three year age range. Why? Think of it this way—would you really wanna go out with a sixth grader who just started middle school, when you're a frosh in H.S.? At this stage in your life, you grow up A LOT within the course of even just a year. Totally different life experiences usually equals totally incompatible, hon.
Even though he’s too old for you, maybe you can find a mini semi-twin version of your security guard crush that’s closer to your age. Try putting a Book o' Boys together where you can keep track of all the guys you like and their traits. This way you'll know what to look for in the future.
1. Age/ Grade:
2. Height:
3. Body Structure:
4. Hair: length & color
5. Eye Color:
6. Athlete: yes/no
7. Musician: yes/no
8. Personality? (Funny/Shy/flirty):
9. Interests:
10. Hobbies:
Oh, and another thing? Don't be afraid to give guys who normally aren't your "type" a chance. Never went for a total band geek before? Um, hello, he could write you tons of love songs.
If this security guard continues to stare at you OR if he starts to make comments that make you feel creeped on, tell a trusted teacher or another adult. Sexual harassment is a serious issue that needs to be addressed ASAP. Talk it out, get help if you still feel weirded and remember to crush on cuties around your age. It'll work out, I promise!
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