Tough Stuff

Telling my friends I have cystic fibrosis

I have a prob. I have cystic fibrosis, a disease affecting your lungs and digestive system. I haven't told some of my friends yet.

My BFF knows, of course, but I'm scared to tell two of my friends. What if they think less of me? Can you help me figure out how to tell them?

Hey girl,

I’m so sorry to hear all this. Cystic fibrosis is a serious disease, and I know it must be hard for you to deal with. And on top of all that it’s never easy telling anyone your secrets...even they're your closest buds.

Your pals love you for who you are

You gotta remember that your chicas are friends with you for who you are on the inside. Your personality is what brought you together, isn’t it? Like clothes, accessories, or your looks, your health isn’t something that shapes you. If these two other girls are your true friends, this shouldn't change how they treat you or how they feel about you.

How to tell them

As for actually telling your pals about the disease, you want to make them feel as comfortable as possible about it. It may be hard for you to tell your pals, but it's gonna be hard for them to take this all in. So make sure that you tell them at the right time. Call them over for girls’ night where you can sit down and tell them you story. Be prepared—they might have a lot of questions. You could also try writing it out in a letter or message. Ask your mom, dad or your BFF to help you find the right words.

What to say

Also, it’s really important that you give them time to let the info sink in. It’ll be hard for them to realize that their friend has a disease. Let them know how you're dealing with it and if there's anything they can do to help. If you keep it together, they will to. I know this will be really hard for you to do, once you get it off your chest you'll feel soo much better. I know this is a lot to handle so stay strong. Your friends will stick by you and everyone on GL is always here if you wanna talk it out.

-Jean L.

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11/10/2009 7:00:00 AM