LIFE

Truth: Major life transitions are often bittersweet. Some might feel positive on paper, like starting your new dream summer job, but come with a rush of anxiety when you start overthinking (What will your new schedule look like? Will your coworkers be nice? Are you going to miss having all that extra free time!?). On the other hand, some changes can seem disappointing at first—for example, saying goodbye to your current friend group to move to a new city—but actually turn out to be really fulfilling. 

Whether nerve-wracking or exciting (or a little bit of both), we can't always plan for life's curveballs. If you are navigating a tough transition, the good news is that you are not alone—and you can get through it with a few of our tried-and-true pointers. 

Adopt a growth mindset 

Having a growth mindset is all about how you approach challenges and setbacks when they pop up. Instead of immediately feeling defeated when faced with a difficult sitch, a growth mindset encourages you to see it as an opportunity to learn and get better. It's like saying: "OK, this is tough, but I can figure it out and come out stronger."

Pro tip: Write this mantra on a sticky note and throw it on your nightstand/bathroom mirror/phone case/somewhere you'll actually see it. Whenever it catches your eye, take a deep breath and let your present self enjoy a pat on the back from your past self. 

Be proactive 

When it comes to life transitions, don't be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone. Being proactive means being willing to take risks and try new things, even if they scare you a little. You don't (we repeat, *don't*) have to have every last thing figured out. It's more about taking the first step, even if you're not sure where it will lead.

Headed to a whole new school in the fall? Set aside some time to research what fresh cool classes are offered or send a cold email to the coach of the basketball team to see if you can try out. Putting in that extra effort is hard when you're feeling stressed about the change in the first place, but it can actually help you get excited about change. Transitions are less painful when you have concrete things to look forward to.

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Seek support

You're quitting swim team to do piano, heading to summer camp, or maybe even going through some changes in your personal life. It's all a bit overwhelming, right?

Whether it's talking to your bsf or a sib, reaching out for support can make a huge difference. It takes guts to admit when you need help and shoot that "Hey, can I talk to you about something? <3" text to someone you trust. Just getting stuff off your chest (and possibly also recieving a big hug) can lighten your load. It's totally ok to not have all the answers all the time, and you shouldn't have to handle it alone. 

Work on acceptance 

Accepting that change is just a normal part of life can make things a whole lot easier. Sure, it can be scary or uncomfortable, but it can also bring new opportunities, growth and even happy moments.

Instead of spending all your energy trying to fight against life's changes, try embracing it. Or even ~pretending~ to embrace it (aka faking it 'til you make it). Remind yourself that change is normal and focus on adapting and moving forward.  Like Taylor Swift said, "You're own your own kid, you can face it."

Going through a big change? Share your stories with us @girlslifemag!

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by Fran Au | 7/15/2024