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How to deal with rejection

So: you got rejected. Whether it was by a crush, a college, a job or something else, it stinks. There's no doubt about it—rejection doesn't feel good, and that's a fact.

But here's another truth: Unfortunately, you're gonna have to face rejection multiple times throughout your life. So how do you deal? How do you cope with the emotions that come with being denied? How do you pick yourself back up and move on?

Let yourself feel all the emotions

If you need to cry it out, then cry it out. If you need to blast solely Taylor Swift's music, then blast her music. Don't suppress your feelings and deep emotions. It's 100% normal to feel insecure, disappointed and devastated, so don't beat yourself up for having such negative thoughts. Acknowledge all of those emotions and let them pass. It's not healthy to let them build up inside of you with nowhere to go.

Acknowledge your efforts

Whether you built up the courage to ask out your crush or you spent hours perfecting your college application, you worked hard to go for something you were interested in. That takes courage and determination—you should be proud of yourself for that! You tried your hardest, and that's enough. Even if you didn't get the result you were hoping for, your efforts weren't in vain; the journey itself is a learning process.

Affirm your self worth

As hard as it is to know in the moment, this rejection does *not* define who you are as a person! Regardless of your results, you are a loved human being with unique, beautiful traits and people who care about you. Though it can be hard to remember your amazing qualities, take time to practice self-care and self-love. Spend time with friends and family who lift your spirits and boost your confidence.

Come to terms with it + move on

It's easier said than done, I know. But don't let this rejection hold you back from the rest of your life—the sting of rejection will pass, and new opportunities will pop up. Instead of getting hung up on one unfavorable result, focus your work and effort on something else that's worth your time. You have so much time and success ahead of you.

If you liked this article, check out these posts for more:
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by Jinny Kim | 5/31/2022