Dear Carol

"Dear Carol, I have this crush, but I'm not allowed to talk to him"

Dear Carol,

I have a crush on this boy, but I only see him at fencing. Fencing is once a week, and we aren’t allowed to talk to each other. But we’ve made eye contact. I don’t know if that counts. I am the only girl and the only person his age in fencing. This is my first major crush and I don’t know what to do. I’m 11.

- En Garde!

Dear En Garde!, 

Eye contact totally counts. And 11 is a fine age for a first crush. Yours is not an “action required” situation, so don’t feel that you have to do anything. Just keep fencing and talking with your eyes. I bet you two will get to know each other better soon.

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books including Speed of Life, Ava and Pip and Girltalk: All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You. Learn more at and on Instagram @carolwestonnyc.

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by GL | 10/24/2023