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The influencer's guide to getting over a breakup
Curing a broken heart is challenging, especially if the breakup was sudden and deep feelings were attached. But we've all been through it.
In the immediate aftermath, coping with all the emotions can be tough. Memories of the relationship go speeding by as you reflect on the past. At times, it may seem difficult to find your bearings.
But the truth is that focusing on the future rather than endlessly pondering what could have been is key. Whether things ended with your former fling on a positive or negative note, now is the time to focus on yourself and your value.
Not to sound like your mom but you don't need a companion to reassure you of your worth. As you recover, you'll recognize that *you're enough,* regardless of whether he/she is by your side.
So how else can you repair your shattered heart? We asked some of our fave influencers to share their secrets to hurrying up the healing process and regaining confidence post-breakup. You got this, girl.
Stop blaming yourself.
"It can be easy to feel doubtful and alone after a breakup. I know from my own experience that I felt really down and unwanted, trying to figure out what I did wrong," shares TikToker Julia Molinari. "Eventually, I realized that it wasn't fair to blame myself and that I wasn't unwanted. I stopped searching for what went wrong and just focused on the fun that I had while it lasted."
Allow yourself to go through the emotions.
"There isn't a magic wand that'll make you feel better overnight, which is why it's important to let yourself feel your feelings and not fight them," says singer Casey Baer. "The longer you keep your emotions bottled up, the harder it'll be to get over the breakup. You can write down what you're thinking or talk with someone you trust—it's OK to ask for help! Time heals all, so don't put your life on hold."
Surround yourself with people that make you happy.
"Make sure to spend time with friends and family who lift your spirits," advises musician Alli Haber. "It's really important in these moments to empower yourself and remember all the good people in your life. Getting over a breakup may be difficult, but as bad as things get, there will be people who are going to be there for you no matter what."
Treat yourself.
"My biggest breakup tip is practicing daily self-care!" exclaims social media influencer Zinnia Alexus. "I do a lengthened skincare routine, work out more often and eat healthier to feel better about myself on the inside and outside. Self-care keeps my focus on myself."
Remove your ex from social media.
"Keeping the person who hurt you on your Instagram feed is going to make you feel worse," asserts Emily Tifflin, a popular TikTok creator. "I unfollowed my former boyfriend so that he'd no longer come up on my social media—and that definitely helped me get over the breakup."
Stay motivated.
"Instead of crying all the time, I like to play music and work out," reveals influencer Bella Diakomanolis. "Chloe Ting's workouts are incredible. They make me feel so confident afterward. I love doing her routines to upbeat Ariana Grande songs."
Focus on your hobbies.
"My best piece of advice would be to throw yourself into anything and catch up on what's important to you," says TikToker McKenzi Brooke. "Honing in on shooting my content definitely helps me. By dedicating time to your passion and sharing it with the rest of the world, you can get through anything."
How would you cope with a tough breakup? Comment below!
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