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GIRL TALK: To Tell Or Not To Tell...
I have a problem that I need some advice for. There is this guy (wow I bet u never hear girls needing advice about guys lol), I'll call him Derek, who I really like. There are 2 problems with my situation. 1 is that he is really popular and a lot of people like him. The other problem is that there is this other guy, I'll call him Sam, who likes me. The only problem is, I don't even know him!!! He's never even talked to me! So, Derek was like "I know someone who likes you!" And at first I thought he was kidding because he and his friends always tease my friend about people liking her. But then I was like "Well, if you know someone who likes me, then who is it?" And he said someone who I didn't even know and he's like "He's really nice!" So I know Derek doesn't like me cause it seems like he wants me to go out with Sam. But, I don't want to go out with Sam because I don't even know him! So, can someone help me with Derek and how I can show him I like him? And I'm sort of shy so there is no way I will tell him I like him and I don't want a friend to tell him either. Thanks!!! (Wow I didn't know I could type so much lol!)
love ya lots!
victoria
Hey Victoria,Holy cannoli that’s a mouthful! We get questions
about guys all the time…they are like the Great Sphinx or Stonehenge
(completely mysteriously and confusing). Sounds like you’re in a little
bit of a pickle. First of all, popular or unpopular, all that matters
is that this guy will treat you fabulously, so don’t even consider that
an issue. If you are worried about your own social standing, anyone who
writes you off because you aren’t “cool enough” is a dummy and not
worth your time. Seriously! It’s always hard getting to know people,
especially when you’re shy. I myself am a bit of a wallflower and what
helped me was small get togethers. Ask your parents if you could have a
few people over for a movie or a bonfire. Its easier to talk to the guy
you dig if you’re in a social setting with other people instead of a
one-on-one scenario, which will definitely make you freeze up.
Relationships don’t happen over night (as wonderful as that would be),
so just work on getting to know each other. I’m glad that you aren’t
even considering having a friend tell him how you feel, its up to you
to voice your thoughts. If you feel a love connection, make a move. If
he doesn’t feel the same way, you will be embarrassed for .5 seconds,
but at least you’ll have no regrets, which is what he’ll be having when
you move on to another more amazing guy and leave him in the dust.
As for Sam, it’s always awkward when you find out someone likes
you and you think to yourself “Huh? Sam who? How do we know each
other?” If you don’t know him, don’t feel bad that you don’t like him.
There is no doubt in my mind that you’re a stellar girl, but if Sam
doesn’t know that about you, then what basis is there for a
relationship? It wouldn’t hurt to get to know him. He may be a diamond
in the rough and you may find that he’s more your style than Derek, or
he could end up being a killer pal to just hang with. Either way you
will benefit. Keep your head up! I am twenty-one and still don’t know
the ins and outs of the male species. I can definitely tell you though
that it’s worth it to go out on a limb and try.
Hearts,
Jana
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