Tough Stuff

GIRL TALK: Bus Bullies

There is a girl on my bus who is always being bullied. It is definitely not to be taken lightly either. There is a group of about 5 girls who tease her. They always make fun of her, call her names, they even make up stuff for her to do just so she will humiliate herself. The teasing doesn't seem to phase her though. It seems like she thinks that that is what a normal friend relationship should be like and its not. I want to stand up for her but I don't want to get dragged into all of this. What should I do?

Totally caring and thoughtful of you, girlie. It makes me so angry to think that there are girls out their who would gang up on someone like that. Although that girl may not know it, but she is definitely a victim of some level of harassment. You are right, this situation should not be taken lightly.

By the looks of it, it doesn't sound like you aren't exactly friends with this chick, so it might not really be in your place to say anything in defense of her in public. She may get angry at you for embarrassing her in front of the bullies if she really thinks she has a chance of being friends with them.

I think the best way to go about dealing with this is talking to her privately, off the bus. Try finding her during lunch, recess or even in the halls. Admit that you don't know her very well, but that you don't think it's fair how those girls treat her. Ask her how she honestly feels about what happens to her on the bus every day. At this point, she will either deny it or tell you how she feels.

If she doesn't seem to care much about it, then let it be. Let her take care of her business. At least ya tried, right? But if she does break down or express any kind of negative feelings, then you two need to take this situation to a trusted adult, guardian or even a teacher. This harassment needs to stop! Help her along the way and be a shoulder if she needs it.

But first thing's first, talk to her and get the scoop on what's going on inside of her. Good luck. I really hope things get settled!

<3, Sharon

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10/14/2008 3:31:00 PM