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Having a sister can be one of the most amazing things in the whole world. You have someone to go to for advice, to tell your secrets to and to share clothes and makeup with. But it’s not all sunshine and roses. Sometimes it’s hard…really hard. Dealing with your sis can be downright difficult at times but it's not impossible. Here's how to overcome whatever sis sitch comes your way.

If you have a sis who thinks she’s *always* right (and makes sure you know it), we have two tactics to save you some headaches. The first is to think of a quick comeback. Nothing mean or inappropriate, but something that will either lighten the mood or prove her wrong. The key there is to not stoke the fire by saying something rude. By being respectful, but still calling her out in a way, you might just open her eyes to what she’s done. If this tactic doesn’t work, then walking away is your best option. Later, after you’ve calmed down a bit, approach your sister and calmly tell her how you feel. 

Next is one that you’ve probably heard from your parents a thousand times: Choose your battles. Easier said than done, though. If your sis has been on your last nerve for a long time, you’re more likely to blow up at her for small reasons. What you need to concentrate on is picking your battles, even when you’re super angry. Try to ignore the little things and move on. It's not worth starting World War Three.

Be honest with your feelings! For those of us that are on the shyer side, this is especially difficult. But your sis can’t fix what she doesn’t know is broken. Pick a time when both of you are in a good mood, and ask her if you can talk about things. Keep an open mind when doing this—just because you have valid problems with her doesn’t mean she doesn’t have valid problems with you. Be willing to hear her POV, and don’t be scared to give your own.

If your sister is extremely competitive, and you find that is the center of a lot of your arguments, then there are a few solutions. The first is to simply ignore it. It’s easy to argue along with her, but you’ll be better in the long run if you don’t. Arguing brings out the worst in people, and often it ends with people saying things they don’t mean so avoid it when possible. The second option is to suggest activities in which there is no competition to be had like going to the movies, visiting museums or baking so you can still spend quality time with your sis.

Another important thing to remember is that fights and arguments happen  to *everyone*. They're normal. Those sister relationships that you see on TV are great, but they are not real. TV has a habit of showing us the best of things when the reality we live in is quite different. Don’t be upset or feel that you’re terrible because of this. Know that this is natural, and that it’s something we all go through.

How do you deal with a sis that you don't get along great with? Let us know your best advice below! 

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by Kaila L. | 2/9/2017