4 tips to help you stop lying to your parents
You got caught sneaking out to your boyfriend's house when you said you were headed to Ashley's—and that's the third time this month. Now you're grounded for the next two weeks. Lying to your parents, even if it's about something small, damages your relationship over time and never ends well. Here's how to start telling the truth and break the bad habit.
First, figure out why you feel like you have to lie.
Usually when you aren't honest, it's because you know you're doing something you shouldn't be, whether it's skipping class or hanging out with Adam who your parents told you not to see. Stop sneaking around and choose better activities or friends. If someone asks you to do something and you aren't comfortable with telling your mom about it, that's often a good sign you shouldn't do it.
Have a chat with your parents.
Maybe Mom and Dad are just a little bit too strict, so you find yourself lying about things you don't think you should have to lie about. In that case, sit down with your parents and explain the sitch. Tell them you want to be honest with them but that they need to trust that you're making smart decisions and ease up a little on the harsh rules.
Just tell the truth.
As obvious as it sounds, it really is that simple. Instead of telling your parents you're going to get ice cream with Jessica, tell them you're really going with the boy you met at the party last week. It can be scary when you aren't sure how your parents will react but, hey, they just might surprise you and be totally cool with it. And if they aren't, you can go to bed feeling good about yourself because you were honest. Lying is never the right choice but telling the truth is.
If you really can't stop lying, you might want to talk to a therapist. She can help you figure out why you're always hiding the truth and develop some healthy practices to quit fibbing. You can also open up to a friend and let her know about your struggle. Having someone hold you accountable can be a big motivator in becoming a more honest, trustworthy daughter.
Have you ever lied to your parents? How do you tell the truth when you're scared? Let us know!