CRUSHES

Advice

GIRL TALK: Boys come and go, but friends are forever..

I have a problem. My bff has had a crush on this guy for the longest time (on and off for longer than I’ve known her, she’s gone to school with him for 8 years, I’ve only known her for 1 1/2), and he’s one of her bgfs. But the problem is, I like him too, and he just recently emailed me asking me out. I really want to say yes, but I’m also afraid it will hurt my bff. She and him are going to the same highschool, but I’m not, and I don’t want to pass up this opportunity before it’s too late. I also don’t want to hurt him by saying no, because we’re friends as well, and we flirt all the time. I also never would have made a move on him had he not made one on me. PLEASE HELP! I have to reply to his email soon!

-strawberry

Ooo this is a toughie!

You definitely don’t want to pursue anything behind her back b/c you might wind up losing a great friend.

I think your best bet is to talk to your BFF. This seems like the only solution to such a tough pickle. Sit her down and let her know about the email and your feelings for your crush. Let her know you came to her because you value your friendship with her over any guy and need her approval to go further.

Also, be sure to approach your BFF in a sincere manner. You don’t want to seem like you’re gloating in any way. Phrases like, “He doesn’t like you, he likes me!” should be avoided at all costs.

If your BFF is still not having it after your little chat, maybe it’s best to leave this cutie alone. As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you can definitely find one without all the drama!

Hoping for the best,
Jiae