CRUSHES

Dear Carol,
I’ve had a best guy friend since third grade. I asked him out last month, and he said, “I would just like it if we stayed really close friends.” I like him so much, I just want to give him one kiss! If I could get that out of my system, my whole life would be better. My grades would go up, and I would stop daydreaming. How could I possibly give him just one kiss (not French-kiss, just regular) and still remain good friends? I need this so much, you can’t believe it.
–Just One Kiss

Dear Just One Kiss,
I know the feeling but, unfortunately, I can’t say, “Who cares that he wants to be just friends? If you feel like kissing him, hey, go for it!” Doesn’t work that way. I know you’re yearning for more, but try to enjoy the friendship. If you rush to pucker up, he might go into panic mode. Wouldn’t you freak if a guy friend surprised you with a kiss? (I mean, a different guy friend!) Besides, kissing someone without their consent is not OK. And even if you were to cop that kiss, you would not magically get A’s or stop daydreaming. You might even daydream about more kisses! Will the two of you cozy up someday? Maybe, maybe not. For now, keep your head out of the clouds.

by Carol Weston | 1/4/2018