CRUSHES

Talking to your crush is hard for basically everyone but for us shy girls? It's next level.

Chatting to normal, non-crushes can be a challenge for introverted girlies, but striking up a convo with the one person you *actually* like? Then flirting with them? I am sweating just typing this.

Not to fear, fellow shy gals. I've rounded up all the advice you need to make those chats with your crush happen (and, phew, it's a lot easier than you think). 

Wear something you feel confident in

Dress to impress...yourself. Instead of scouring your closet for a fit you think your crush might like, stick to whatever makes you feel the most cute and confident. Maybe that's jeans and tee. Maybe it's a sparkly dress and heels. Bottom line? If you feel like a queen in it, wear it.

Ask thought-provoking questions

OK, we're not saying that you have to bascially be blurting out icebreakers the whole time (matter of fact, we recommend avoiding that, tbh) but having a couple of fun, get-to-know-you questions in your back pocket for when the convo gets slow can be a secret shy girl weapon. 

Also asking your crush thought-provoking Q's every once in a while can be a great way to keep the fresh topics flowing. Having a difficult time thinking up what to say? Ask yourself what you actually want to know about the person. Do they have a favorite band? Who inspires them? Heck even just why they love a sport they play. The idea is just to show your genuine interest in getting to know them better.

Find common interests

You heard your crush has the same obsession with tennis you do? Ask who they think will win the U.S. Open this year. Spot them at the supermarket? Ask them if they cook. Both in biology? Ask how they are handling the workload (misery loves company after all),

The idea is to make those first moments feel familiar and easy for both of you—because who doesn't love realizing they aren't the only one who finds the caf's unsloppy joes suprisingly tasty? 

Hang out with your crush in groups

If you and your crush aren't super close, try organizing a group hangout first by connecting with mutual friends. Do you both have buds on the soccer team? Invite them to a movie night, crush included. Without the one-on-one pressure, convos tend to happen more naturally.

Offer up an activity date

If deep chats aren't your forte, invite your crush to do something with you instead. That could mean challenging them to a game of pickleball, going on a hike or even cramming for the chem test together. By having an activity at the center of your attention, there's always something to talk about. 

Have more crush Q's? Ask us anything on Threads @girlslifemag!

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by Laila Mayfield | 3/8/2025