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Your BFF just got into a relationship. Now what?


@elliethumann

That cutie your bestie met at summer camp finally asked her to be official! You couldn't be more excited for the new couple, but you're also a little worried. How is this going to change your friendship? Your BFF starting a new relationship can be challenging, but we're here to help you navigate all the ups and downs.

Problem: You barely see each other.
Now that your bestie has an S.O., she's spending more time with them and less time with you. And yeah, it's kind of a bummer.

Solution: Plan some awesome hang-outs.
Since you and your BFF aren't seeing each other as much, try to be more intentional about your hang-outs. Plan a movie night (complete with snacks and a blanket, ofc), a trip to the aquarium or a super IG-worthy brunch date. You shouldn't be the only one making plans, but you can def make the first move.


@rileyhubatka

Problem: Her S.O. doesn't like you.
Your bestie's new boo is *so* awkward whenever you're around, and they pretty much refuse to talk to you. Uncool.

Solution: Get to know them.
You and your BFF tell each other everything, and her S.O. probably knows it. Maybe they're being quiet because they're super nervous around you and aren't sure how to act. Help them feel more comfortable by asking questions and making an effort to learn more about them. Maybe you'll end up becoming besties, too!


@laurenorlando88

Problem: You're feeling left out.
Even when you do spend time with your BFF, all she does is talk about bae. And when the three of you are together, it's like you're not even there.

Solution: Talk to your bestie.
It can be hard to speak up when you feel upset, but remember that your feelings are valid. Even if your bestie isn't leaving you out intentionally, you still feel hurt. Instead of bottling up your negative emotions, set aside some time to sit down with your bestie and tell her how you're feeling.


@shayrudolph

Problem: Change is hard.
It feels like everything is different now. You really don't like when things change, especially when they were perfect they way they were.

Solution: Find something new to love about yourself.
Some things will always change when your friends get into relationships, but that doesn't mean they have to be bad changes. Yeah, you're spending less time together, but that just gives you more time to focus on *you.* Go out and meet new people or find a new hobby. Take up journaling and do some self-reflection. Change doesn't have to be scary—it can be exciting!


@summerjmadison

Need more friendship advice? Look no further than these other GL articles:
💞 How to deal when your friends have a busy schedule
💞 How to show your besties you love them
💞 Why it's OK if you don't have a big friend group

Tag us in pics of you and your bestie @girlslifemag for a chance to be featured!

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by Aubrey Rhoadarmer | 8/26/2022
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