4 helpful tips if a friend comes out to you

With Pride month being celebrated all over social media, now seems like the perfect time to discuss one of the most difficult steps LGBTQ+ people can to take—coming out to loved ones. And, well, that can be hard to know how to navigate. So, here is a list of 4 helpful tips if a friend comes out to you.

1. Acknowledge that your friend is really brave. Coming out can feel scary and isolating, but your friend is overcoming that to be proud of who they are. That's huge! Let them know that you're proud of them—it'll go a long way. 

2. Do your research! It's OK to be confused at first, but you need to overcome that confusion in order to have a solid relationship with your Queer friends. Talk to parents, teachers or even consult Google. It will mean a lot to your friend that you put in the effort and will make you feel more comfortable. 

3. Be careful not to out them. Their identity is not yours to share and just because you know doesn't mean everyone else does. If you really want to talk about it, ask your friend first. Questions like "Have you told so-and-so?" or "Are you ok if I talk to x about this?" are really helpful in making sure you and your friend are on the same page. 

4. Keep on loving and supporting them! The fact that your friend came out to you means that they really trust you and want to be their genuine self around you. Let them know that you still love them and value their friendship. 

This list of resources from GLAAD can answer any questions you might have. Also, if you feel like your friend is in an unsafe situation, you can call these hotlines to get help. 

Happy Pride month! 

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by Molly Greenwold | 6/22/2020