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My best friend and I are very close but she has such low self-esteem. She’s always saying things like, “I’m dumb” or “I’m so ugly.” Then she says that I’m “pretty” or “smart” or “lucky.” It annoys me because she’s a great person! I think she insults herself just so I’ll give her a compliment. How can I help her?

Your company and compliments, respect and affection are helping. But you’re right—it’s a shame she spends so much energy putting herself down. You might mention that the only thing you don’t like about her is that she’s constantly dissing herself.

In fact, why not make her compliment herself and say, “I’m a good friend/singer/writer/artist…” right in front of you? You could also suggest she join an after-school activity or talk to a school counselor.

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by Carol Weston | 2/1/2016