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Popular BF? Fend the flirtarazzi off your guy
I love my BF, but apparently so do a lot of other girls. They are
constantly hanging around him, saying how hot he is, and one time a girl
gave HIM a valentine! He tries to make them back off, but they won't
listen. How do I show them that I'm staking my territory?
Besides
kindly asking girls to "please stop" in situations where you are
present and uncomfortable with their inappropriate, flirtatious
behavior, there's not a whole lot you can do. But don't worry! You and
your lovable BF, as a team, can work to stop the outward affections of
other girls.
Have a heart-to-heart with your BF and tell him that you
care about him and it really bugs you when other girls flaunt their
feelings for him. The next time he encounters a not-so-secret admirer,
ask him to simply tell her, "I have a girlfriend" and walk away. You
shouldn't have to "stake your territory" if your guy steps up and helps
make a fence around the territory. He's capable of fending off other
ladies. Help him find civil, effective statements and actions to stop
the love-fest.
Luckily, in the end,
what all those other girls do doesn't even matter. If you like your
BF, your BF likes you, and you both trust each other, then those other
girls are just a nuisance and pose no real threat to your relationship.
Make sure to get a little one-on-one time (outside of school) with your
guy where you can avoid unwanted attention. At the park or the mall or
a movie, you can enjoy each other's company, without the flirtarazzi.
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