CRUSHES

One of my really great guy friends is also my long-time crush. I really want to ask him out, but I’m not sure how to do it. And, I don’t know if I should. He is so great, but there are few problems. When he was with his most recent (and first) GF, they kissed all the time and I don’t know if I’m ready for that. I want my first kiss to be special and with a guy I love.

Another thing is that sometimes he can be really pervy and on occasion make me feel a little uncomfortable with his jokes. He usually only does that when he’s around some of his jock friends, but still… The last thing I'm unsure about is if he'll find me attractive. His old GF was really thin, pretty, and had a very unique style. I’m not really skinny, there's nothing especially gorgeous about me, and my style is just whatever I decide to wear that day. I don’t know if he only likes girls like her or if he would go out with me. What should I do? He is a really great guy and we’ve known each other forever.

Hey girl! Since this guy has only had one GF, I wouldn't worry about whether or not you're his "type." It's so early in the game, he probably doesn't even have one, so it could totally work in your favor that you're different from his ex. (Plus, he won't be reminded of her when he looks at you!)

You're definitely already at an advantage just from being good friends with him, but it could make things a tad harder getting him to see you as more than just a friend. The next time you're around him, flirt with him. Compliment him, tousle his hair, give him a playful shove—little things to remind him you're a member of the opposite sex. Upping your flirt factor might open his eyes to what's right in front of him. If he seems responsive to these things, then go for it and ask him out. He might be really into you.

If he's not so eager to flirt back, then tone it down a bit, maybe it just isn't meant to be. If that's the case, well, at least you saved yourself from months of pervy jokes.

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12/21/2009 7:00:00 AM