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BGF and BFF Love Triangle
OK, I have a really big problem. This year I realized I liked my BGF, Chris. Except he likes one of my very close friends and at our dances he gets upset because she's dancing with the guy she likes. I feel bad for him, so I go ask her to dance with him and then I'm all upset and it's just horrible.
Then my second problem is my friend. I haven't told any of my friends that I like him for two reasons. First, me and my bestie never tell each other who we like, we tell each other everything but that, I don't know why, we just don't. Then one of my other best friends (who I also tell everything), she's always talking about how annoying he is and how much she hates him every time I bring up his name. I don't know what to do, because obviously he doesn't realize I like him and I can't tell anyone.
-mibabe'
I think you should explain to the friend who doesn’t like Chris that you are good friends with him and don’t appreciate when she complains about him. You won’t have to put up with her badmouthing him anymore, but she doesn’t have to know that you have a crush on him, either. It might also be a good idea to explain to your other best friend (the one that Chris likes) that he has a crush on her. She may not have realized or known.
Since she likes another guy, she won’t go out with Chris, but she will probably get the message across to Chris that she doesn’t like him that way. If you don’t mind being just friends with Chris, I would suggest leaving it at that. However, if you feel you really need to tell him, then talk to him about it. Explain that you know he likes your friend, but that you wanted to let him know how much you like him and how much of a great guy he is.
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