CRUSHES

I have a major problem. You see the guy that I liked just had to go through his dad passing away. A few days ago he gave me his number and told me to call him, but now I'm afraid to because he might not want to talk or he might be depressed.

All of my friends and even some of his say that I should call him because he really needs someone, but I'm so afraid that he won't talk to me or he might start crying. I don't know what I can say to comfort him and if anybody has any suggestions please give them to me!

I of all people understand you girl. I am SO not an emotional person myself. So much so that when people start to cry on me, I literally freak out and go into panic mode.

But the thing is...your friend needs you right now, so put aside your worries and call him up. He gave you his number so he definitely wants to talk. A lot of people worry about what to say in situations like this. Everyone wants to say just the right thing to help out their loved one. But honestly, there isn't a right thing to say or anything that you can do to make him completely better. The best thing that you can do, that anyone can do, is to listen. You don't have to say anything at all, just lend an open ear so that he can get some things off his chest. That will be the biggest and greatest help to him.

And yeah, he might cry. I mean who wouldn't in such a circumstance? It's OK, and let him know that. Don't feel the need to fill up any silences with banter or chatter. It's really all about letting him get his emotions out. You're a great friend and with people like you by his side, he will be okay.

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7/13/2009 7:00:00 AM