CRUSHES

So you and your crush finally made it official—yay! You two lovebirds have been spending quite a lot of time together, but after a while you notice that not everything is rainbows and butterflies. There are days where he makes you feel like you’re on top of the world and others where you feel as if you can't do anything right. You're realizing your dude may not be all that he seemed...If you’ve noticed any of these red flags in your relationship, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate.

He makes comments about your weight
“Are you really going to eat that cheeseburger? You’ve been looking a lot heavier lately…” If you’ve ever heard your bae say something like this to you, you know it doesn't feel good. There’s a difference between someone being concerned for your health and someone being disrespectful. Your body is in your control and no one else should be able to tell you how it should look. The person you’re in a relationship with should like you for you, not your body.

He doesn't “allow” you to hang with your babes
When you try to see your girlfriends, your boyfriend’s answer is always along the lines of, “Can’t you hang out with them another night?” A healthy relationship is one that is balanced. If he’s not letting you have some needed girl time, chances are he’s a tad too controlling. Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your relationship with your BFFs.

He's unsupportive of your dreams
Maybe you want to be a doctor or a scientist and all you’ve been hearing from your bae is, “You’re not smart enough for that.” This should be a huge, neon, flashing sign in front of your face! Anyone who’s in a relationship with you should be supportive of your goals and future plans. You need someone who will tell you “you can” instead of “you can’t.”

He needs a detailed play-by-play of your day
By this, we mean your boyfriend needs to know exactly where and who you’re with every second of the day. If it feels like he might as well have a tracking device put in your phone, that's not healthy. Trust is super important in a relationship so if you tell him that you’re going to the library to study, he should not question that statement.

He's moving WAY too quickly
Maybe he just asked you to be his yesterday, and he already wants to introduce you to his parents. It’s understandable if this makes you uncomfortable because, well, that's pretty fast. Tell your bae that you might need some time to get used to being in a relationship before he tries to have you meet ma and pa.

Remember girls, this doesn’t just apply to *your* dating relationships. If you notice these red flags in a friend's relationship, make a point to talk to them about it.

Have any of these things ever happened to you? Tell us in the comments below.

by Kristina Lee | 3/17/2018