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I just recently got a boyfriend. Whenever we text I have to start the conversation. I was just wondering why he doesn't ever start the conversation or how I can get him to start the convo?

His Answer: “The girl shouldn’t always have to start the convo.” Says Cody H., 17. “ It’s a two-way street. If he never wants to start the conversation then there usually is something else on his mind. He should always want to talk to her and if he’s always not starting the conversation then the girl isn’t the top priority in his mind. Try talking to him and telling him how you feel, chances are he doesn’t even notice that he’s not contributing to the conversation.”

Decoded: Be honest with your dude! Sometimes boys need things to be spelled out for them to understand how you’re feeling. Take his lack of communication skills as a warning sign, also. If he is already lacking in the convo and you just started dating, it’s just going to get worse down the road.

Your Move: Talk to your cutie about how you feel and see if anything changes. If he does, then chances are he just didn’t know what he was doing. If there is no change, see what’s really going on. He may have a lot of stuff going on and is busy or he is just nervous and doesn’t want to seem annoying. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to this case. Most importantly, make sure you put your happiness first!

by Caitlin Moynihan | 1/29/2018