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Is it ever OK to make a move on your ex's best bud?


My BF and I broke up two months ago. Now I really wanted to go out with his best bud. But now the guy I'm crushing on is so sweet he knows my ex still likes me and doesn't want to date. But I want to date him bad!!! What do I do?

His Answer: “I would just try to get closer to him before actually trying to get him because the guy obviously wants to give his friend/ your ex time to recover from the break up. Eventually, your ex will get over it and you can try to get with his friend,” says Willi S., 16.

 

Decoded: Your ex needs time to move on, and your ex’s best bud is just being there for him. He’s doing the right thing and not dating his best friend’s ex! Maybe once your ex moves on, you can go for his best friend.

 

Your Move: Your ex’s best bud, is, well, doing what best buds do! Become friends with your ex’s friend first. Give everyone more time. Talk with your ex’s best friend, or even with your ex to figure out what’s going on and how he’s feeling. Once things seem better, like when your ex is over you, that is the time to go for the other guy! But beware—this situation can get messy. Don’t try to pull your ex and his best friend apart. Be sure to wait long enough—how would you feel if your best friend dated your ex right after you two broke up?

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by Mary Perkins | 2/1/2016
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