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Before he cheats
You and your BF have a rock-solid relationship, right? But what about those texts he's constantly tappin' out? Or the fact you spotted him chatting up that new girl at the pool? Could he be cheating? Here are some things to consider....
Bad boy behavior: He hangs out with players
The majority of guys who've cheated have friends who do the same. So if you know his pals are cool with creepin', that may mean he is, too.Cheater check: Heard that his bud hooked up with a gal that's so not his GF? Ask your boy what he thinks about his unfaithful friend. If he shakes his head and says it's a shame, he's got good values. But if he defends him or passes it off as no big deal, he's clearly cheater material.
Bad boy behavior: He's MIA
You've been trying to reach him all day, but he doesn't get back to ya 'til you're tucked in bed. What gives? Well, your guy may be busy-or he could also be spendin' his seconds with someone else. Cheater check: Next time he's missing in action, ask him to be honest about where he's been. If he offers up a legit excuse (or better yet, a heartfelt apology), no worries. But if he serves you a suspect story or acts like it's none of your business where he's been, he might as well wear a tee that says, "I'm not trustworthy."
Bad boy behavior: He's a flirt
No doubt your dude is charming: Your mom's his No. 1 fan, and his Facebook albums are full of flirty pics with pretty girls (whom he swears are plain ol' pals). Yeah, he may just be super sweet and outgoing-or he may be the type who can't commit to just one. Cheater check: Nothing's wrong with having a great personality (and that's probably why you like him!), but be watchful: He may be giving that Prince Charming act to many other admirers.
Bad boy behavior: He's super secretive with his cell
Does he always have his Sidekick stashed in his pocket? Is his contact list chock-full of girls' names you don't recognize? That phone may contain more than a list of numbers-it could also store the truth about any two-timing. Cheater check: Ask to borrow his cell to make a quick call, and see how he responds. If he happily hands it over, great. But if he's guarded or offers to dial the digits for ya, he may be tryin' to keep you from peeping at his potential gal pals.
Bad boy behavior: His moods are mega-shifty
One second he's acting indifferent, the next he's gifting you with ginormous bouquets of blooms. While it's normal to expect some fluctuations in his feelings (hello, hormones!), back-and-forth behavior could signal that he's straying.
Cheater check: It's not like you want to raise a red flag every time he's extra-nice to you (or vice versa), but major mood swings and over-the-top acts of affection may mean he's conflicted-or covering up shady behavior. Chat with him next time he pulls an emotional switcheroo. He may need help sorting out some issues.
Bad boy behavior: He's cheated on someone before
Yeah, he may have kiss-and-dissed his last girlfriend, but this time's different, right? Well, not always. Unfortunately, it's pretty likely that a guy who's cheated before will become a repeat offender. Cheater check: We all try to learn from our past relationship mistakes, but if you sense that he might be slippin' back into his old, unfaithful ways, remind him you'll dash at the first sign of any double-dealing. Chances are, he only needs a quick reminder of how good he's got it with you (and only you!).
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