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Four FUN Ways to Approach a Guy This Weekend

What are your plans this weekend? Don’t let winter blues put you into a funk. It's prime time to meet the guy of your dreams. We’ve got expert advice from GL’s own BGF, Mike Diao. So, take the challenge and go for it, girl.


Ever been to the mall, movies, or local eatery and see a guy you REALLY want to talk to? Yeah, I know you're nervous. But here’s some good news: Guys usually feel the same as you do. I’m a guy and I have DEFINITELY felt that way. We usually end up making fools of ourselves in front of girls. So ladies, be extra confident and don’t be afraid to talk to that dude!
 



How do you first approach this boy? Depending on the sitch and location, you need to get creative. Here are four different scenarios and my advice for approaching boys in each of ‘em.



At the Mall…Stun Him With Style Advice


If you’re out at the mall, the boys you’d want to meet are the ones who shop in the same places as you, since that obviously means you have a shared interest. As a girl, use your superior fashion sense to help us style-challenged guys out. For example, if you’re at Urban Outfitters, American Eagle or Hollister and you see a guy having a hard time figuring out which shirt is better, you could stop by and tell him with a friendly smile, “I think that one looks best on you.” I’ve always appreciated girls giving me fashion advice. It saves us guys a headache, starts a convo and gets us thinking that you’re a really nice and helpful girl.



At Your Fave Eatery…Ask for His Opinion


Your tried ‘n’ true pizza parlor, fast food joint or local ice cream scoop is also a great place to approach a guy. Everyone’s happy and chilled out when they’re enjoying something delicious, so any dude is sure to be open and friendly. If you’re standing in line near a guy, say you’re a regular here, but you’re looking to try something new—what would he suggest? If he's seated at a table, walk past, and point out that what he's eating looks great—what is it, and would he recommend it? Being guys we tend to love giving our opinion about everything—especially food—so it’s a great way to get talking.


At the Movies…Show Off a Little


OK, so this one is a little tough, because you wouldn’t want to go up to a guy in a dark theater and ask him what he thinks is gonna happen next (pretty creepy!). Since you’re both stoked about the movies (bonus if he’s seeing the same flick you are), go ahead and impress him with what you’ve read about the film or heard about it. After that, this is a little like #2, but go back and ask him what he thinks about it. Spot a guy AFTER the show? Bring up specific parts that you really liked (especially anything action-packed) and say, “What did you think?”



At the Rink…Ask for Help OR Give Him Some


Ah, ice skating. Sure, it’s fun to watch people acing axels in the Olympics, but in real life not everybody is as skilled. There are definitely lots of athletic boys at an ice skating rink, so if you’re a beginner, it’s the perfect excuse to ask a guy for some help. Already pretty good on ice? There’s always room to learn more moves. Ask a skilled guy to show you how to skate backwards or a hockey player to teach you something about his game. Boys love showing off what THEY’VE learned, especially when it comes to sports. On the flip side, if you see a really unskilled boy hanging on to the boards, offer YOUR help and give him some tips.



…And Always Remember…


I know it sounds cliché, but the first rule of thumb is to just be yourself. If a boy doesn’t like you for who you are, then it’s just not worth it. Keep the conversation going and it always helps to have friends around (um, but not an all-out posse—‘cause that’s intimidating). As long as you’re relaxed and confident, it all just comes down to making friendly comments, which boys are ALWAYS excited to get from a girl, believe me.

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by Mike Diao | 2/1/2016
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