LIFE

You asked: I started getting depressed earlier this year, and I went on meds for a few months, but then my mom made me stop taking them because she thinks they’re a crutch for me and that I just need to deal with my problems. But I don't have problems; it’s just how I feel.

The therapist even said it's a chemical depression, not situational...and it's getting worse and worse. I haven't started cutting again yet, but I'm afraid I might. I told my mom how I'm feeling, and she still doesn't want to let me take meds.

I'm 16, and I think I should have a choice.

We answered: You’re in a tough place, girl. You’re 16, and you do have a voice about these decisions, but it’s sometimes hard to make it heard when you’re still under 18. It’s a good sign that your mom understood the need for therapy, but it sounds like she’s not getting on the same page with you and your therapist.

If your therapist recommended and prescribed medication that was working, but your mom won’t let you have it, that puts you in a difficult place. Perhaps your mom would be willing to come to a joint session with your therapist, or else see him/her alone.

This isn’t totally up to you to fix—that’s why you’ve got a therapist. And if you’re feeling like you might do something harmful to yourself, your therapist is there to call and you can always schedule an emergency appointment or phone appointment if you need one.

While it’s great that you have therapy to help you deal with this confusing time, you’re still living with your mom who cares about you but doesn’t quite understand what you’re going through. Sometimes it’s easier to get your message across in a letter. Try writing down your thoughts on paper in a clear, calm way, and see if your mom can digest it easier.

And if you ever need someone to talk to immediately because you’re afraid you might hurt yourself, try Teenline, teens helping teens: (800) 852-8336.

by Lindsey Silken | 10/9/2018