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"Dear Carol, my parents can't accept that I've grown up"
Dear Carol,
My parents can’t accept that I’ve grown up. I like music, chatting with my friends on the Internet, boys…. My dad thinks he’s “lost” me, but I’ve just gained other interests, which my parents call “obsessions.” How can I get them to accept me?
—Grown Up
Dear Grown Up,
You’re not the first teenager with new interests and fretting parents. But you can stay close to your mom and dad. Talk to them about the novel you’re reading in English class, ask about their work, or discuss holiday plans. In other words, find common neutral ground instead of telling them you’d be sunk without the Biebs.
Your dad is upset because he loves you, and it’s hard for parents to watch their children turn into young adults. Reassure him by saying, “Dad, I’m growing up, but I’ll always be your daughter. Want to go for a walk or to a movie?” It’s natural that you’re separating a little, but keep your relationship with your parents a healthy one by making it a point to spend time with them.
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