CRUSHES

Don’t panic

It’s OK. You girls aren’t gal pals for nothing. You obviously have some things in common, including guy types. Maybe you both fell for the sporty sweetheart or the talented theater kid. Either way, there is no reason to get all worked up about it and make things awkward.

Evaluate your true feelings

Make a list of pros and cons about this guy. Write down his best traits and some things that you guys don’t necessarily have in common. For example, a pro can be that he is super funny. A con? He’s a total gamer and you don’t know anything about that. When you’re done with the list, think about your real feelings for this guy. Is he someone you really see yourself with or is it just a little temporary crush?

Talk to your BFF

As in most situations, being open and honest is one of the best things you can do. It might be a good idea to get together with your bestie and talk about how the school year is going or how you’re each doing in your hardest class. Then, bring up the boy you’re crushing on. Let her know that you’ve spotted him and think he’s cute. She’ll probably let you know that she’s into him too and what she thinks about you also liking him. Maybe you agree that one of you likes him more or that you both just prefer to be friends with him. Only talking directly to your BFF will help you figure this one out. Plus, if she’s a true friend, she won’t get upset with you about being honest.

Remember: It’s not worth losing a friend over

Hopefully your friend will understand your feelings and you will be able to talk it out. If she’s feeling extra sensitive about the situation and isn’t being the most understanding right away, just remember that good friendships are hard to come by and shouldn’t be thrown away because of a dude. Give her some time. Chances are she’ll be able to talk about it with you when she feels ready.

Have you and your bestie ever crushed on the same dude? What did you? Share in the comments below.

by Andrea Rizkallah | 2/1/2016