CRUSHES
Advice
Is it worth 'fessing your feelings to your crush?
There's
this guy I have liked for a long time. He knows that I like him, but I haven't
come out and told him. If I brought it up to him, would he start ignoring
me?
His Answer: “How do you know the guy likes you? How does he know you like
him? You know that saying 'the worst part of a battle is the wait leading up to
it?' Well that same uncertainty is petrifying to a lot of guys. Some people
would be relieved that a girl was forward with them, especially if he does like
her. Others, however will have their ego's bruised from the reversed gender
role or begin to feel awkward.” –Drew, 17
Decoded: Asking someone out is actually really
scary, what if you get shot down? A guy (although slow to admit it) can get
pretty terrified by the idea, too. If you were that nervous, wouldn’t you like
it if your crush got the guts to ask you out first? What a relief! The only reason he would start ignoring you,
would be if he felt awkward or uncomfortable. That’s the same way we girls feel
if we shot down somebody who liked us.
Your Move: We can admit that asking someone out is
just a tad bit risky, but why shouldn’t you be the one risking it? If you're feeling gutsy, ask him. If you'd rather be cautious, flirt with him a bit. See how he responds when you make a move. If he closes off, move on and find another guy. But if he flirts right back, then go ahead and 'fess up. Either way, it all starts with you making the move first. Go for it, girl!
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