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You pinky promised and crossed your heart, yet it’s still super tricky to keep your mouth shut when your BFF spills. But no matter how juicy, you know you’ve gotta obey girl code and stay shushed. So what should you do when you’re dying to dish? Try out these tips:

Write it down

Grab your most top-secret diary and let it out! You’ll feel the relief of spilling the secret, without actually doing it. Just make sure that private journal stays private.

Find a fellow secret keeper

Ask your bud if anyone else is in on the dirt. If so, gossip with that gal about the sitch instead of someone new (with your bestie’s permission, of course).

Step into her shoes

Whenever you’re feeling that urge to spill, take a sec to think about how you would feel if your secret were being shared. Hopefully your conscience and a little guilt will help ya keep those lips sealed.

Consider the consequences

Is it really worth losing your fave gal pal over a little gossip? Of course not! So next time you’re itching to dish, think about what’s at stake. Fights, hurt feelings, silent treatments…yikes!

Stay honest, no matter what

Let your BFF in on your secret-keeping struggle. Telling her it’s hard for you will make her realize what an open, true friend you are. And if it slips out to your big sis or your BGF, don’t stress. Calmly explain the oops to your girlie. She may be a little mad, but she’ll appreciate your honesty and be more willing to give you a second chance.

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