How to rekindle a crush after you turned him down
A
really good guy friend asked me out last year, but I turned him down.
It didn’t hurt our friendship—we stayed close. About a year ago,
he moved away and I didn’t see him the whole time he was gone. Now
he’s back, and he’s looking really good. I’m totally crushing
on him. Is it too late to try to rekindle a romance?
Dave:
Rekindle? But there weren’t any sparks—at least in your
campfire—in the first place. Still, it doesn’t sound like
anything happened that would keep you from dating now. However, you
might want to rehearse your “sometimes I make bad decisions I later
regret” speech. Plus, there are a few things to consider before
broaching the subject. While the friendship might have survived your
initial rejection, can it handle the fallout of a full-scale breakup
if things don’t work out? Can you still be friends if he doesn’t
feel the same? Test those waters before jumping in.
Bill:
Hmm…if we were to make a movie of your love life, we could call it
Shallow Gal. I hope you’re not going after your friend solely
because he’s “looking really good.” If you’ve been friends
all along, you’ve got a decent head start on a meaningful
relationship. Just be sure you like the whole person—not just his
new and improved looks.
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