LIFE

It's hard (and super awkward) when you find out that your best friend is crushing on the same guy as you. She tells you while your hanging out after school, and your heart skips a beat. You couldn't wait to gush about this special guy, and here she is telling you how she loves his hair and the way he smiles. Eek! What do you do?

Of course there's a pretty big chance that you and your bestie will fall for the same guy at some point. But there's a way to fix it just follow these four steps to save your friendship, and both your feelings.

Talk to your friend.

The one thing that is necessary is to let your friend know that you also have feelings for the same guy. Your first thought is to probably stay low and support her, but if they end up dating, you will definitely get hurt. Instead, be completely honest and tell her that you've also had a major crush on him. You can either figure out a solution that works for both of you, or decide to see what happens. Either way, putting it out in the open is the key.

But what if he likes me, not her?

Has the guy made it obvious that he's super into you? You may feel extremely conflicted, knowing that there's a weird love triangle happening but you have to sit and think. How much does your friend mean to you? Has she been a friend for a long time? Do you guys spend a lot of time together? Most importantly, is she a good friend? If she has deep feelings for the same guy, then it's time to say bye-bye to Mr. Perfect. It might seem unfair, but you'll realize that your bestie is way more important and special than a guy. Think about it this way. If it were the other way around, wouldn't you want your friend to give up the guy as well? Be the better person and let him go.

Don't go behind your friend's back.

At this point you might be thinking "what if I date him secretly?" No, no, no. She will definitely find out. Losing a girl friend because of a guy is really not worth it. You're young and there will be many boys in the future. No more flirting, no more hanging out. The boy is officially off limits.

Get over him together.

Hang out with one another and dish about all the other cuties at school. You girls will realize that the guy that you were both crushing on was totally not worth losing your friendship over. You'll soon be onto the next guy, and will be laughing over your last crush in no time.

Have you ever fallen for the same guy as your BFF? What did you do? Let us know in the comments! 

by Viviana Santini | 10/25/2016