After being apart all summer (she was lifeguarding and visiting her cousins, you had camp and tennis practice), you’re so ready to finally catch up with your bestie. But…what if there’s a disconnect? After spending some time apart, it can be tricky to get the usual flow up and running. Luckily, this guide has rounded up the best ways to make your reunion exciting and rewarding, without any weird or awk vibes.
Plan The Meetup
With so much space between you two, you’ll want to have a solid plan going into the hangout. Don’t go for your usual spontaneous sleepover, drive with no destination or big group hangout scene. All your beloved rituals will come rushing back into circulation in due time, but for now…keep things simple. Distance can bring unexpected pressure to a hangout, so crush any unnecessary doubts with a structured Starbucks meetup, picnic at the park or thrift store run. Keeping things low-stakes and casual will keep things chill and get you back to normal.
Go With The Flow
It’s easy to spiral when faced with a long-distance meetup, especially with someone who’s normally always in your orbit. What will you guys talk about? What if she’s too cool for you after her prestigious college summer program? Will she even care about your crush on your coworker at the smoothie shack? Before getting swallowed by a torrent of worries (and in turn making the reunion more stressful and awkward than it needs to be), remember who it is you’re meeting up with. This is your BFF. From pajama parties to late-night bike rides, you’ve always done everything together. Go into the hangout without expectations, and things will click back into place in no time at all.
Q’s To Get The Convo Flowing
While you want to let the conversation move naturally, after the initial “hey” and “it’s been so long!”, it’s totally normal for things to turn, well, dry. Lucky for you, we’ve got some perfect questions to get you talking naturally again. With these up your sleeve, no amount of awkwardness can stand in your way…
If your summer was one of the Jonas Brothers, who would it be?
Did you meet any vacation crushes when you were away?
What are you most excited/nervous about for the school year?
How should we spend our last day of summer?
Are you more of a beach or pool person?
What’s the weirdest inside joke from your vacation?
Who’s the most interesting person you met?
Schedule Your Next Hangout
Congrats! You’ve successfully reunited. After pushing through a few moments of initial hesitation, the two of you fell right back in sync and are already cry-laughing about your ridiculous exploits with your camp crush and hypothesizing Taylor’s entire wedding lineup. But…now what? Without a real routine set in place, you might not feel set in your usual hangout schedule. Keep the momentum going by planning the next time you meet up. Summer freedom means it’s difficult to make concrete plans, but organizing your next beach hangout/matcha run/movie night will alleviate the confusion, and you two will go back to being peas in a pod.
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