I don’t know my dad. It really bothers me, because he left my mother when she told him she was pregnant with me. I’m always thinking about it. I have only two pictures of him. I just found out his name a few weeks ago, too. My mom was devastated when he left her, and she’s now depressed. I feel so broken by this. Help?

-I Love You?

Whoa girly, this is a tough one for both you and your mom. Not having your dad around is probably taking its toll on your mom. You have to remember that she’s human, too, and she’s allowed to feel sad. But her sadness shouldn’t take over her life.

Ask your mom if she wants to talk about it. It may help both her and you to discuss about the situation. You may learn a lot about your dad and it may also help your mom to finally get some things off your chest. But if she starts to bad-mouth your dad, let her know you care about her, but
you’re not ready to hear the bad things just yet. It’s not fair to you if she disrespects your dad right in front of you.

But if your mother doesn’t want to talk and she still seems depressed, then she may need to talk to a professional. It may actually help both of you to visit a counselor and attend a couple of therapy sessions. This is not your battle to fight. Remember girl, whatever is going on between your mom and your dad is not your problem and it is not your fault.

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