considering the fact that I was such a daddy’s little girl. He always
used to brag about what I was doing or how tall I was getting. I miss
him so, so much and it’s getting harder now with high school and guys
being guys. I don’t know really what to do with myself anymore. I
would never do anything dramatic, but I have really been thinking about
losing weight and all kinds of stuff I know I shouldn’t be doing. I
know it’s got to do with dealing with my dad and trying to keep my mom
up on her feet. I also have to keep my grandma and grandpa up. He was
just so young (38) and it just doesn’t seem fair. I just don’t know
what to do…HELP!
-Anonymous
Oh sweetie! I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.
Losing anyone you care about is hard, but losing a parent is
exceptionally devastating. I won’t even try to say anything like, “I
understand how you feel” or “He’s in a better place,” because it won’t
make you feel any better, I’m sure. Honestly, there’s not much anyone
could say that would instantly make you feel better.
It’s
going to take time. Not necessarily to heal, because you’re always
going to miss him (and that’s ok!), but rather to cope; to relearn your
life without him. It’s ok to be sad, but think about how he’d want you
to live your life. He would want you to be happy! So as you remember
him, also move on with your life in a way you know he’d be so proud of
you for. Don’t cry because he’s not there with you; smile because you
know how much he loved you and how happy it would make him to see you
grow up and be happy.
It’s hard to cope with such a loss, but
surround yourself with friends and family. You’ll need a support system
of people who will be there for you when you feel you need him the
most. When you wish he was there to give you advice about boys or
whatever in life, just imagine what he would say. Imagine his voice.
Though it’s not quite as good as the real thing, he’ll still always
there with you that way.
<3 Jessie M.
