O.k. There’s this guy Jake I really really really like. Only, I
don’t know him so well and I know for a fact that this girl that’s
kinda sorta my friend likes him, a lot. She’s always flirting with him
and I can’t tell if he likes her or not. I would like to be closer to
him. He’s really cute and funny and smart and all that “perfect” jazz.
Well, I’ve only talked to him a time or two. I’ve known him for a while
but I moved from where I live now and then moved back. Before I hadn’t
really noticed him, but now I think of him all the time. How can I make
this more than just a casual acquaintance before he falls for that
other girl I talked about? Can someone pleeze tell me how to land this
dude?– ya, i’m that desperate‘
Oh to be young and in love..,those were the days. First of all you
are not desperate, it sounds as though you have given a lot of thought
to this predicament you are in. There is nothing desperate about
wanting to get to know someone a little better. It sounds like your
heart is in the right place, props to you for finding a guy that is
cute, funny AND intelligent. Wanting to get to know someone but being
unsure as to their romantic situation and what they are looking for is
the story of my life. Keep things simple. Get to know him before you
profess your love. Starting up a convo seems super stressful but a
simple “ Hey how was your weekend?” will give you a jump start into
dissecting this dude and seeing what he is really about. Relationships
are born out of friendships, concentrate on your common interests and
build a foundation for a possible relationship. You may find that you
enjoy Jake as just a good guy friend.
are not desperate, it sounds as though you have given a lot of thought
to this predicament you are in. There is nothing desperate about
wanting to get to know someone a little better. It sounds like your
heart is in the right place, props to you for finding a guy that is
cute, funny AND intelligent. Wanting to get to know someone but being
unsure as to their romantic situation and what they are looking for is
the story of my life. Keep things simple. Get to know him before you
profess your love. Starting up a convo seems super stressful but a
simple “ Hey how was your weekend?” will give you a jump start into
dissecting this dude and seeing what he is really about. Relationships
are born out of friendships, concentrate on your common interests and
build a foundation for a possible relationship. You may find that you
enjoy Jake as just a good guy friend.
As for the other girl in the picture…don’t stress out about it. I am
the queen of overanalyzing and I can tell you that obsessing over the
unknown details makes for a messy situation. If you are close enough
friends with her that a possible relationship with Jake would totally
put a damper on your bud bond then you need to ask her what’s up. It’s
always a difficult situation when two BFFs dig the same guy, but your
best bet is to lay all your cards on the table and let your bud know
your intentions.
the queen of overanalyzing and I can tell you that obsessing over the
unknown details makes for a messy situation. If you are close enough
friends with her that a possible relationship with Jake would totally
put a damper on your bud bond then you need to ask her what’s up. It’s
always a difficult situation when two BFFs dig the same guy, but your
best bet is to lay all your cards on the table and let your bud know
your intentions.
If you don’t think that a love connection between you
and Jake will have a drastic affect on this chic, then don’t sweat it.
and Jake will have a drastic affect on this chic, then don’t sweat it.
Keep an open mind and be that confident babe you are. In order to
make things happen you have to make an active effort, don’t wait on the
sidelines.
make things happen you have to make an active effort, don’t wait on the
sidelines.
Kisses,
Jana
