I have been friends with my BGF forever. I like him, and I know he likes me. The thing is we are both really shy when it comes to the whole asking out people thing.
Word spreads fast in my school and I don’t want anyone finding out. How can I ask him out without being embarrassed, scared or having the whole school find out?
Hey hon, if you really like your friend and he likes you, too, then there’s nothing to worry about. Because you’re both shy, maybe you can find creative, non-verbal ways to ask each other out, such as a cute text message or funny card.
You don’t have to be afraid or embarrassed to ask your friend on a date. Chances are, he’s just as nervous and he’ll definitely appreciate it if you make the first move. The date doesn’t have to be anything too romantic or serious either. Skip a candlelight dinner and go to a local roller skating rink. You’ll have an awesome time on the ice and work up an appetite, too. Follow up your rink rendez-vous with a trip to your fave pizzeria and ice cream shop. A low-pressure date is a great way to get to know each other as more than friends.
You’re right. If you go to a small school, word will travel fast. In middle school, it seems like everybody knows about everybody else’s business. What matters is that you handle the situation with style and grace. You don’t have to tell people all the mushy details about your dates. It’s none of their business. If someone confronts you to get the scoop, you could change the subject, give ’em a short reply or just a simple “yes” or “no.” Put it this way: Would you rather keep quiet and never date this dude or have to answer a few Qs from your classmates? Don’t let anyone make ya feel embarrassed.
Bottom line is—you want to be more Beyoncé and Jay-Z than Spencer and Heidi. The first couple keeps their relationship private—the way it should be. The second couple, well, you know what a mess they are. Remember, at the end of the day, a successful relationship is between two people—not two people…and the whole world.
Lots of love,
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