My BFF Steals the Boys I Like

You’re so close with your bestie, sometimes it can feel like you share TOO much. Your girl has been known to eye up cuties you’re crushing on and you’ve had it. You’d never do anything to ruin your friendship but you’re upset she’s blowin’ up your boy’s cell. 


I met this guy at my friend’s birthday party and we hit it off immediately. He seemed like he was really into me but I wasn't sure. I had just gotten hurt by my ex and when I told my BFF about him, she said she would to get to know him to see if he was good for me.


I gave her his number and after a week, she knew more about him than I did. I asked her about it and she said, "Wow, really? He must not talk to you much then. I'm sorry." I saw this gleam in her eyes that she has when she lies. I asked him why he talked to her so much later that day. He said she texts or calls him first and when he tries to stop she just keeps texting or calls back like five minutes later.


I know he doesn't like her but I also know she's relentless. She has dated almost every guy I have ever liked or dated. We are really good friends, practically sisters, but I get so angry when she does that. I don't want to ruin our friendship; we have been friends since 5th grade but she is driving my crazy with all this drama! What can I do?


BFF Fix- It: Sticky sitch, girlfriend. Totally fixable, though! You gotta talk to your BFF. Explain how you feel about what she’s been doing. Tell her you’re not 100% okay with her dating guys you have been with. Remind her that you were hurt by your ex and that you were finally excited about a guy again when you met this new one. She should understand that you need time to get to know a dude before you date him, but that's hard to do when she constantly snatches up your sweeties. Make sure she knows you appreciate her trying to help you out, but that you'll handle it from here.


Above all, reassure your girl about how important she is to you. She might be feeling a little insecure, so it’s crucial to let her know your friendship will always come first. Getting everything out in the open will clear a lot up and you both will feel better!

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12/14/2009 7:00:00 AM
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