My friend likes my ex, but she’s worried it will ruin our friendship if they go out. I’m so over him, and I really don’t mind if they date.

How can I make her understand it’s OK?

You and your bud seem genuinely concerned about each other’s feelings. If you’re really OK (and you’d better be extra positive) with her dating your ex, then tell her you appreciate her putting the friendship first but that you no longer like him like that. Give her your best, and mean it.

No need to go overboard—it’d be weird to insist they date. It might seem like you’re trying to pawn him off, and what if he’s not interested in her? You don’t want to put her in a position to be turned down by your old guy. If either of them choose not to pursue dating, just let it go.

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10/20/2009 7:00:00 AM