My sister is in ninth grade and plays varsity soccer. She also runs track and has broken four school records—and this is only her fourth meet ever! I like sports and all, but I get really frustrated when I’m compared to her.

She practices soccer three hours a day and then runs four miles. I’m expected to do all that now, too. My sister is really nice to me, but all our coaches think I can be just as good as she is and push me way too hard. How can I get everyone to stop comparing me to her?

Even though people compare you to your sister, don’t torture yourself. I’m sure you have plenty of your own talents and goals. Find something else you like doing.

Do some exploring to find out what YOUR natural talents are. This way you’ll have the freedom to be your own star. Instead of worrying about being a record-breaker, just enjoy the process of discovering more about yourself. As for your sister and soccer coaches, let them know you love the team and will happily cheer them on…from the stands!

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9/17/2009 7:00:00 AM