Uh-oh! My BFF likes a bad boy

One of my friends REALLY likes this guy, so I talked to him about her. He called her these really mean names and things so I told her, "Honey, please be careful. I don't want you getting in over your head with him. He's a player and was using you. He got your hopes up. He told me that he doesn't like you. I'm sorry."


Well, she totally went off on me about it. Should I not have told her? I feel really bad because I think she just got her heart broken. She won't believe that I only told her to protect her! I know I should let her learn from her mistakes but this always happens and for once I wanted her not to get hurt. How do I make things right?


Hey girly,

At times, it can be totally tough helping your friends out, even when it's for their own good. It’s great that you want to you warn your friend about this guy, but you want to take the right approach to it so that you don’t offend her. How do you make things right between you and your chica?


First of all, the next time this topic is brought up, let her know that you didn’t want to make her angry. Even though your intentions were good, you want to calm her down so that your friendship isn’t hurt by this problemo.


Explain yourself thoroughly. You don’t want to just state the facts about what he said. Doing that might make your girl angry because she won’t have a clue where you’re coming from. You have to let her exactly what you’re thinking and WHY it's such a bad idea for her to date this dude. Tell her your side of the issue, before you dump out the evidence.


Often it’s hard for girls to see the BAD side of guys if they fall hard. At some point, i feel like every girl has been in this sitch. Is she too far gone? You might just have to let her learn on her own and be the shoulder to cry on once he breaks her heart (oof!). Don't say I told you so, but definitely listen to your pal.


Hope it all works out!
-Jean L.

ARE BOYS GIVING YOU THE BLUES? CLICK HERE to submit your own problem to be answered on Girl Talk!

POSTED IN ,

6/12/2009 7:00:00 AM
share