He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not?


I just got my first boyfriend. He's really sweet to me and everything, but for some reason I always think he doesn't really like me.


My friends tell me he really does like me, and I'm just worrying too much. I'm not sure what's up, I have a feeling it's just my nerves. Yet, I have a feeling it isn't. Please help me.


-Worried Sick


Hey W.S., I  think we all get this feeling from time to time, but don't fret. I totally feel ya on this one. I sometimes think one wrong move will make my boyfriend of three years leave for good! The important thing to remember is that these are just fears in your own head.


It's totally natural to be nervous, especially since this is your first BF! You may be a li'l confused about how you're supposed to talk to him, call him, go on dates with him, etc. Since this is really bugging you, I would sit down and think about what exactly happens that makes you feel this way. Make a list. Once you have it written down on paper, you might see that your concerns are really silly and nothing to worry about.


Why do you think that he doesn't like you? Is it because you're totally stumped on some of his boy traits like his never-ending love of baseball, obsession with his Xbox or love of gory horror flicks? He may have some different interests than you do, and that's 100% normal. You're not gonna agree on everything. But the best part about dating a dude who's a little different is learning about the things he's into. Next time he's totally tuned in to a Mets game, ask him who his fave player is. He'll LOVE teaching you all about his boy stuff and you might even have fun learning about it!


But if you feel like your boy doesn't like you for more serious reasons – you catch him eyeing the cute cheerleader when you meet up after the bell rings, he cancels your Saturday night movie date to jam with his band, he ignores your texts – or other sketchy behavior, then it's time to rethink this relationship.


And ask your friends for their input, too! If they're all reassuring you that he's into you, they may be seeing something you're too nervous to notice. Or maybe they've heard the buzz from his other guy friends about how he just can't stop talking about you! Chances are your fella is probably a little shy and confused about relationships too, so he may not be great at showing you how much he cares.


Either way, take a breather and calm down before you freak out about your BF. If he's really into you, it'll all work out fine. And if he's not? His loss! You're a great girl and any guy would be lucky to have you. So, no worries if this dude's a total dud. There's plenty of other fish in the sea (er, sweeties in your science class, gorgeous guys playing frisbee in the park, the cute guy from Spanish club...you get the pic!).


xo Annemarie

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4/10/2009 7:00:00 AM
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