I'm jealous of my mom's new beau


When I was 3 years old, my dad died in a car crash. My mom has since remarried and divorced, but it’s been awhile since she started seeing someone new…until last year. Now I feel like she’d rather hang out with her boyfriend than me. I confronted her about it, but she just said I’m jealous. What should I do?

 

I’m so sorry you’re having a tough time at home, sweetie. It’s been just you and your mom for so long that I’m sure it’s difficult to accept someone new coming into your life and taking up your mom’s focus. It’s natural to feel jealous in this sitch, but that doesn’t mean you should accept the status quo.

 

Time to chat

 

So what if you’re jealous? That doesn’t mean that it’s right for your mom to spend tonsa time with her new beau and zero with you. Talk to her again, seriously, and tell her your concerns. Don’t accuse her of not caring, because that’s not true and deep down, you know that. Simply say that you miss the quality time you two used to spend together, and you wish you could have that back again.

 

Make a date

 

Try to set aside a whole day or even just a night where it’s just you two. Maybe you could make your own pizza on Friday night and watch chick flicks, or you could go shopping on Saturdays. Whatever it is, keep is reserved for you and your mom only. That means no BF for her and no BFFs for you. Fair is fair, right?

 

Get to know the guy

 

Anyone who’s in a relationship with your mom ought to know that you are a part of the package. If no one else is suggesting it, mention how much fun you think it would be if you guys went out to the movies together, or to the park for a picnic. Even if he’s not your favorite person, you can get along for a few hours and more importantly take advantage of the quality time with Mom.

 

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by Brittany Taylor | 2/1/2016
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