Dear Carol,

My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex, and I don’t want to. Help.

–Pressured by BF

Dear Pressured by BF,

Tell him you don’t like feeling pressured and that it’s not fun when every hug or kiss turns into a tug of war. Have this talk when you’re taking a walk (rather than, say, being cozy on the couch). Tell him in a clear, assertive way that you like him, but that you don’t plan to have sex for years. If this continues to be a problem, set each other free.

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books, including Girltalk, Speed of Life and Ava and Pip. Follow her on Insta @carolwestonnyc and visit carolweston.com.

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