For the past couple of months I've been consumed by jealousy. Almost everything makes me jealous. I think it's because I'm very insecure about myself and I don't think I'm very pretty even though my friends tell me I am. This week was homecoming week at my high school and when I looked at the voting ballet for homecoming queen I became jealous of every girl on the list. They were all popular and pretty. I've always wanted to be like them and have people actually want to date me and I've always wanted to have the confidence that they have. How can I overcome my jealousy because it's not fun and I don't know how much longer I can stand it.
-Jealous
Here’s a quick and friendly fashion tip for ya: Jealousy looks good on
no one. It’s only natural to feel jealous every once and a while. After all, you’re human. But being jealous all the time? So not worth it and so not healthy.
It’s very good that you seem to understand the source of your jealousy. Congratulations, this is the first step to becoming a better (non-jealous) person. Now, let’s focus on the positives and do away with the negatives. You say you don’t think you’re very pretty, but your friends think you are. Unfortunately, sometimes you can be your own worst critic.
Make a list of at least five things you absolutely love about yourself. But before you start jotting down some physical characteristics (eyes, nose, mouth, etc.), list those non-physical traits, such as your personality, sense of humor or intelligence. What’s on the inside counts way more that what you see on the outside.
Once you start focusing your attention on all the great things about you (and pay less attention to those other girls), your confidence will naturally rise. Remember, everyone—even those so-called popular and pretty girls—feels jealous now and then. Trust me, I know I have! But you shouldn’t let it consume you. Most importantly, try hard not to compare yourself to other people. There’s only one you and you’re beautiful, babe!
Lots of love,
L’Oreal
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BY ANDREA T. ON 10/6/2008 2:17:00 PM 45 COMMENTS